A Comprehensive Guide to Understanding and Surviving Sex Addiction For Partners and Those Who Want to Help Them
Author: Paula Hall
Sex and pornography addiction are growing problems that devastate the lives of partners as well as sufferers. Sex Addiction: The Partner's Perspective has been written to help partners and those who care about them to survive the shock of discovering their partner is a sex addict and to help them make decisions about the future of their relationships and their lives. First and foremost, it is a practical book, full of facts, and self help exercises to give partners a much needed sense of stability and control. Like its sister book, Understanding and Treating Sex Addiction, it includes case examples and survey results revealing the reality of life for partners of sex addicts. Sex Addiction: The Partner's Perspective is divided into three parts. Part I explores the myths surrounding sex addiction and provides up to date information about what sex addiction is and what causes it before moving on to explain why the discovery hurts partners so much. Part II is about partners’ needs and includes self-help exercises and strategies to help partners regain stability, rebuild self-esteem and consider their future. The controversial topic of co-dependency is also explored with guidance on how to identify it, avoid it and overcome it. Part III focuses on the couple relationship starting with the difficult decision of whether to stay or leave. Whatever the decision, partners will then find help and support for rebuilding trust and reclaiming their sexuality. This book has been written to help partners not only survive, but to grow stronger and move on with their lives – whether alone, or in their relationship. Readers will find revealing statistics and real life stories shared by partners who kindly took part in the first UK survey of sex addiction partners. This book will this book be a valuable guide for partners, but also for the therapists who seek to support them on their journey of recovery.
A Comprehensive Guide for People who Struggle with Sex Addiction and Those who Want to Help Them
Author: Paula Hall
Sex addiction is on the increase - in the media as well as in the therapy room. But while more and more people seek help for their compulsive sexual behaviours, there is still confusion and debate about whether the condition even exists. Understanding and Treating Sex Addiction explains why an increasing number of people are inadvertently finding their lives devastated by their sexual behaviours. It explores the latest scientific understandings and research into why pornography, cyber sex, visiting sex workers, fetishes and multiple affairs can come to control some people's lives to the point that they can't stop. It explains how sex addiction is not a moral issue, as some assume, but a health issue that we as a society need to start taking seriously. Throughout the book are the revealing statistics from the UK's latest survey on sex addiction. Three hundred and fifty people who struggle with this condition have bravely and candidly shared their experience for the benefit of their fellow sufferers and those who choose to help them. This book contains support and advice for both the clinician and for those who suffer from sex addiction. As well as practical guidance and techniques for stopping compulsive behaviours and preventing relapse, there is also a thorough exploration of the deeper underlying causes and how these must be addressed.
Author: Stefanie Carnes,Christopher Gallegos
Category: Family & Relationships
When your partner betrays, what are the first steps to picking up the pieces of your shattered heart? Many unsuspecting people wake up every day to discover their loved one, the one person whom they are supposed to trust completely, has been living a life of lies and deceit because they suffer from a disease-sex addiction. This is a disease shrouded in secrecy and shame. This is your go-to-guide for what to do when you discover your partner is a sex addict. Each chapter is based on frequently asked questions by partners such as: Should I Stay or Should I Go? Is This Going to Get Better? How Do I Set Boundaries and Keep Myself Safe? and What Should I Tell the Kids?
Do Broken Bonds and Early Trauma Lead to Addictive Behaviours?
Author: Richard Gill
Publisher: Karnac Books
This outstanding book is an important collection of papers from the 2013 John Bowlby Memorial Conference by accomplished clinicians from different modalities who share their experience of working with people with different kinds of addiction. The papers bring together an in-depth understanding that addictions are a response to, and hold the pain of, broken attachments and are best treated within healthy interpersonal relationships. For a long time the person with an addiction has been seen as the problem with society being able to live in denial of the causes. These papers open up innovative and effective ways of working with people troubled by addiction from an attachment-informed perspective.Contributors: Cara Crossan, Richard Gill, Lynn Greenwood, Bob Johnson, Liz Karter, Edward Khantzian, Arlene Vetere, Kate White, Jason Wright
Author: Patrick Carnes,Kenneth M. Adams
This is the first comprehensive volume of the clinical management of sex addiction. Collecting the work of 28 leaders in this emerging field, the editors provide a long-needed primary text about how to approach treatment with these challenging patients. The book serves as an excellent introduction for professionals new to the field as well as serving as a useful reference tool. The contributors are literally the pioneers of one of the last frontiers of addiction medicine and sex therapy. With a growing awareness of sex addiction as a problem, plus the advent of cybersex compulsion, professional clinicians are being confronted with sexual compulsion with little clinical or academic preparation. This is the first book distilling the experience of the leaders in this emerging field. With a focus on special populations, it also becomes a handy problem-solving tool. Readable, concise, and filled with useful interventions, it is a key text for a problem clinicians must be able to identify. It is destined to be a classic reference.
The Journey Through Grief and Betrayal
Author: Wendy Conquest
Category: Sex addiction
Sudden changes in routine, bizarre and inexplicable shifts in behavior, in the bedroom and out. Emotional distance and excuses for lack of connection. These are all telltale signs that something is very, very wrong. For a sex addict's spouse or partner, these changes and fluctuations are upsetting and crazy making, leading to thoughts that they have done something wrong, aren't good enough or that there is some other reason for the inconsistent, bewildering behavior. For many, sex or porn addiction is farthest from their minds or too scary to consider. Inspired by a career of working with sex addicts and their partners/spouses, Wendy Conquest's collection of letters fuses fiction and nonfiction to astounding results. Diving deeply into the psyches of those whose lives are shattered by betrayal and the resultant feelings of hurt, rage, resentment and despair, this book directly mirrors a partner's experiences from multiple perspectives. Each letter explores a different facet of the relationship dynamic, the addict's illness, and the partner's thoughts and feelings throughout all the stages of this devastating experience. This powerful book is for men and women experiencing the trauma of infidelity caused by their partner's sexual addiction and the fallout that occurs. This informative book was written for anyone needing to understand what is happening to them, that they are not alone, that there is help and that there is recovery. In addition, this book is for addicts to better understand what is happening for their partner, why healing is taking so long and what they can do to help their spouse. Therapists, ministers, counselors, pastors and doctors will be better able to relate to people whose partners are unfaithful. This book is a must read for anyone doing couples work when pornography use or affairs are present to assess how much damage has occurred for the spouse and the relationship. These insightful, gut-wrenching, yet hopeful letters create a well-rounded picture that delivers clarity, understanding and a path of healing. Letters to a Sex Addict: The Journey Through Grief and Betrayal will help those affected to regain sanity and clarity and peace of mind.
A Codependent's Perspective
Author: Christine A. Adams
Love, Infidelity and Sexual Addiction is an honest sharing of a trust betrayed. It chronicles the author's personal experiences with a sexually addicted spouse as well as stories of others in various stages of recovery from coaddiction. This book offers hope and healing to those who have suffered from repeated betrayal. It details a system of spiritual and emotional self-help including chapters defining Sexual Addiction and Coaddiction, The Shame-based Family and The Spiritually Centered Family, Signs of Obsession, Compulsive Behavior, Finding Self, The Solution, A Healthy Relationship, and Forgiveness.
Insight Women Need
Author: Paul Becker, LPC
Publisher: Author House
Category: Health & Fitness
Why is My Partner Sexually Addicted,? provides critical insight into the nature of sexual addiction. A woman rarely need to probe the origin and consequences of sexual addiction until her partner is “found-out.” Each chapter reveals aspects of sexual addiction, all to help a woman decide how she will live after she discovers her partner’s aberrant sexual behavior. Meet a Reviewer: “This book is outstanding. It's wildly packed with valuable information. I learned a lot and feel every woman married to a sex addict should get this book in order to have a very deep understanding about what is likely going on in her husband's mind/brain.” Darcy H. Meet the Author: For Paul Becker, LPC, counseling and writing are second careers. He was a federal government economist and executive for over 36 years. Working with men in prison led him back to school where he earned a Master's degree in counseling education. He works in Virginia in private practice.
Author: Gail Honeyman
Publisher: BASTEI LÜBBE
Wie Eleanor Oliphant die Liebe suchte und sich selbst dabei fand Eleanor Oliphant ist anders als andere Menschen. Eine Pizza bestellen, mit Freunden einen schönen Tag verbringen, einfach so in den Pub gehen? Für Eleanor undenkbar! Und das macht ihr Leben auf Dauer unerträglich einsam. Erst als sie sich verliebt, wagt sie sich zaghaft aus ihrem Schneckenhaus - und lernt dabei nicht nur die Welt, sondern auch sich selbst noch einmal neu kennen. Mit ihrem Debüt "Ich, Eleanor Oliphant" ist Gail Honeyman ein anrührender Roman mit einer unvergesslichen Hauptfigur gelungen. Ihre erfrischend schräge Sicht auf die Dinge zeigt uns, was im Leben wirklich zählt. Liebe. Hoffung. Ehrlichkeit. Und vor allen Dingen die Freundschaft. "Absolut mitreißend." Jojo Moyes
Author: Catherine Millet
Im Alter von achtzehn Jahren erprobt Catherine Millet eher zufällig mit Freunden Gruppensex. Es ist der Beginn eines Lebens frei von allen sexuellen Zwängen. Mit einer noch nie da gewesenen Offenheit beschreibt die Autorin die intimsten Details ihrer sexu
The Social Construction of Atypical Sexual Behaviors
Author: Andreas G. Philaretou,Constantinos N. Phellas,Stavros S. Karayianni
This book provides an exploratory investigation into the world of atypical sexual variations and interactions, in particular, the intersections of homosexuality and ethnicity, sexual addiction and codependency, sex work and cabaret patronage, and Cybersex addiction. It deals primarily with the intrapersonal, interpersonal, historical, social, and cultural manifestations of such atypical interactions and their social construction as atypical behaviors. This book is primarily intended for graduate, and upper level undergraduate, students in psychology, sociology, family studies, and social sciences. Upon reading the book, readers will come to an understanding of how homosexuality, codependency, sex work, and Cybersex (Internet pornography) come to affect our emotional, psychological, sexual, and relational well being. This book is unique in the sense that it provides constextually rich information into such neglected and taboo topics by utilizing unique ethnographic and autoethnographic methodological means.
Theory, Practice and Research
Author: Dr Reinhard Eher,Leam A. Craig,Michael H. Miner,Friedemann Pfäfflin
Publisher: John Wiley & Sons
International Perspectives on the Assessment and Treatment of Sexual Offenders: Theory, Practice and Research provides the first truly global perspective on the assessment and treatment of sex offenders. Presents a comprehensive overview of current theories and practices relating to the assessment and treatment of sex offenders throughout the world, including the US, Europe, and Australasia Covers all the major developments in the areas of risk assessment, treatment, and management Includes chapters written by internationally respected practitioners and researchers experienced in working with sexual offenders such as Bill Marshall, Ruth Mann, Karl Hanson and Jayson Ware
Author: Terry S. Stein,Carol J. Cohen
Publisher: Springer Science & Business Media
The psychiatric view of homosexuality has undergone a fascinating evo lution in recent years. This includes not only the change from viewing homosexuality as a diagnosable illness, as opposed to an alternative life style, but also the development of considerable professional concern for providing appropriate mental health services to this previously under served minority community. There has been an increasing recognition of the need for comprehensive services including, but not limited to, counseling, individual psychotherapy, and couples therapy. This book is written for the practicing clinician, and offers a compre hensive survey of the important clinical issues involved in the counsel ing and psychotherapy of gay men and lesbian women. It is an extraor dinarily practical book and its breadth and depth make it appropriate for both the novice and the experienced therapist. SHERWYN M. WOODS Series Editor ix Preface We hear our mentors but do not often heed them. Freud's supportive, nonjudgmental approach to homosexuality provided an ambience with in which discoveries could be made, that is, the discovery that homosex uality was not a disease of mental degeneration and that sexuality, in the sense of a fundamental human propensity to find pleasure in social and physical attachments, was at its root directed to both sexes. The ad herence to a nonjudgmental approach was short-lived, suffered repres sion by homophobic defenses, and scientific zeal was directed toward "cure" rather than comprehension of the homosexual state.
New Psychological Perspectives
Author: Ronald F. Levant,Gary R. Brooks
"As Fresh as today's headlines, as scholarly as cutting-edge research, as clinically useful as any volume can be, Men and Sex is a well-written compendium that is essential reading for academics and clinicians. It is the last word on this most intriguing and socially relevant subject of men and their sexual desires." --William S. Pollack Director, Center For Men, McLean Hospital/Harvard Medical School Coauthor of In a Time of Fallen Heroes: The Re-creation of Masculinity "A bold and informative book on a topic too long neglected by psychologists and other social scientists." --Lucia Gilbert Professor of Educational Psychology and Director of Women's Studies. University of Texas at Austin "This is a truly important book. Turning conventional psychological wisdom on its head, these authors reveal that what we have long considered 'normal' male sexuality is, actually, a collage of pathologies -- objectifying, nonrelational, aggressive." --Michael Kimmel Professor of Sociology, Suny at Stony Brook Author of Manhood in America: A Cultural History "In this excellent book, Levant and Brooks have taken a courageous and necessary step in exposing the pitfalls for men of nonrelational sex, and offer, in its place, a model of intimate and engaged sexuality. Just as women are learning to embrace their power, men can learn to embrace the nurturant and caring aspects of themselves. Ultimately, both genders will benefit from having a greater range of emotions and behaviors available to them, and their sexual experiences will be more gratifying and complete." --Dorothy W. Cantor Coauthor of Women in Power: The Secrets of Leadership
Addiction, Treatment, and Recovery
Author: Eric Griffin-Shelley
Publisher: Greenwood Publishing Group
More than 10 years ago the US National Institute of Health identified sexual addiction as a research priority. Experts now conservatively estimate a prevalence rate of 5 percent of the American population. Eric Griffin-Shelley provides a detailed definition of sex and love addiction as well as an outline of treatment and recovery.
a social work perspective
Author: Francis Joseph Turner
Publisher: Free Pr
The most comprehensive textbook for students in advanced social work and mental health courses is now completely revised and updated for a new generation When Adult Psychopathology: A Social Work Perspective was first published in 1984, this pioneering text was the first to conceptualize and organize theory and practice about the treatment of the mentally ill within their families and communities from a social work perspective. Now, in response to new developments in theory and research, as well as changes in service delivery within the field, the second edition contains updated and accessible information on how mental illnesses develop and how they can be treated within a social work framework that recognizes the importance of family, economics, and culture as well as biochemical and psychodynamic factors. Each chapter is written by the leading social work authority on that subject and includes practical, in-depth discussion of state-of-the-art technologies, treatments, and research. The book encompasses the broad spectrum of topics that social workers need to understand, including personality, adjustment, schizophrenia, suicide, anxiety states, phobias, neurological disorders, psychosexual disorders, drug and alcohol addiction, eating disorders, and others. Adult Psychopathology, Second Edition is essential for both M.S.W. and Ph.D. social work students and, as the authoritative, unequaled reference book, will aid clinicians in making more precise diagnoses in their daily work.
Canadian Social Work Perspectives
Author: Rick Csiernik,William S. Rowe
Publisher: Canadian Scholars’ Press
Category: Compulsive gambling
Uniting top academics, researchers, and practitioners, this contributed volume offers new perspectives on the meaning, role, and history of addiction in our society and the construction of illicit drug use as a social problem. This substantially revised second edition provides an authoritative focus on policy issues that will extend and enrich the education and on-going discussion of addiction within the social work community. New to the second edition: discusses the intersection of substance abuse and intimate partner violence in the lives of women seeking help examines drug use, addiction, and the criminal justice system and how these intersect to further disadvantage those held prisoner by these challenges recognizes the real significance of addiction for those Canadians struggling with homelessness and mental health issues examines adolescent substance abuse considers how some aspects of specific cultures can help prevent addiction explores male and female differences in individual and group treatment questions the belief that graduates of Canada's schools of social work have the competency to be addiction counsellors