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The Dance of Anger

A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships

Author: Harriet Lerner

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 0062328522

Category: Self-Help

Page: 256

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The renowned classic and New York Times bestseller that has transformed the lives of millions of readers, dramatically changing how women and men view relationships. Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we feel—and certainly our anger is no exception. "Anger is a signal and one worth listening to," writes Dr. Harriet Lerner in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches both women and men to identify the true sources of anger and to use it as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change. For decades, this book has helped millions of readers learn how to turn their anger into a constructive force for reshaping their lives. With a new introduction by the author, The Dance of Anger is ready to lead the next generation.

The Dance of Anger

Author: Harriet Lerner

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 0061759589

Category: Self-Help

Page: 256

View: 8777

"Anger is a signal and one worth listening to," writes Dr. Harriet Lerner, in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers.While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches women to identify the true sources of our anger and to use anger as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change.

The dance of anger

a woman's guide to changing the patterns of intimate relationships

Author: Harriet Goldhor Lerner

Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers

ISBN: 9780060913564

Category: Psychology

Page: 239

View: 1751

"Anger is a signal and one worth listening to," writes Dr. Harriet Lerner, in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this ngaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches women to identify the true sources of our anger and to use anger as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change. Book jacket.

The Dance of Intimacy

A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships

Author: Harriet Goldhor Lerner

Publisher: HarperThorsons

ISBN: 9780722538050

Category: Change (Psychology)

Page: 255

View: 3602

This guide outlines the steps women, as well as men, can take to strengthen good relationships and heal difficult ones. It is also available on two 90-minute audio-cassettes from HarperAudio.

Marriage Rules

A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up

Author: Harriet Lerner

Publisher: Penguin

ISBN: 1101554215

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 288

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Following a unique format perfect for today's world, the renowned author of The Dance of Anger gives us just over 100 rules that cover all the hot spots in long-term relationships. Marriage Rules offers new solutions to age-old problems ("He won't talk"/"She doesn't want sex") as well as modern ones (your partner's relationship to technology.) You'll also learn how to: Calm things down and warm them up Talk straight and fight fair Listen well as a spiritual practice Connect with a distant partner Survive the unique challenges of children, stepchildren and difficult- laws Follow a 12-step program to overcome defensiveness Know how and when to draw the line Take back your marriage when things fall apart Marriage Rules is a treasure chest of lively, practical advice to help you navigate your couple relationship with clarity, courage, and joyous conviction. If one person in a couple follows ten rules of his or her choice, it will generate a major, positive change. All that's required is a genuine wish for a better relationship and a willingness to practice.

Why Won't You Apologize?

Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts

Author: Harriet Lerner

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 1501129597

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 208

View: 2714

"Lerner has been studying apologies--and why some people won't give them--for more than two decades. Now she offers ... stories and ... theory that bring home how much the simple apology matters and what is required for healing when the hurt we've inflicted (or received) is far from simple. Readers will learn how to craft a deeply meaningful 'I'm sorry' and avoid apologies that only deepen the original injury

Rage

Author: Ronald T. Potter-Efron

Publisher: ReadHowYouWant.com

ISBN: 1458769569

Category: Self-Help

Page: 256

View: 2250

This new book from anger expert Potter-Efron offers powerful, emergency help to anyone whose extreme and volatile rages cause him or her to lose control of emotions, behaviors, and even conscious awareness--causing sometimes irreparable emotional and physical harm to themselves, their loved ones, and, occasionally, to innocent by-standers.

The Dance of Connection

How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate

Author: Harriet Lerner

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 9780061851834

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 272

View: 6705

Bestselling author Harriet Lerner focuses on the challenge and the importance of being able to express one's "authentic voice" in intimate relationships. The key problem in relationships, particularly over time, is that people begin to lose their voice. Despite decades of assertiveness training and lots of good advice about communicating with clarity, timing, and tact, women and men find that their greatest complaints in marriage and other intimate relationships are that they are not being heard, that they cannot affect the other person, that fights go nowhere, that conflict brings only pain. Although an intimate, long-term relationship offers the greatest possibilities for knowing the other person and being known, these relationships are also fertile ground for silence and frustration when it comes to articulating a true self. And yet giving voice to this self is at the center of having both a relationship and a self. Much as she did in THE MOTHER DANCE, Lerner will approach this rich subject with tales from her personal life and clinical work, inspiring and teaching readers to speak their own truths to the most important people in their lives.

Women in Therapy

Author: Harriet Lerner

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 0060972289

Category: Psychology

Page: 288

View: 4164

In clear, lively prose, Harriet Lerner takes a bold look at women and the psychotherapists who work with them.

The Dance of Fear

Rising Above Anxiety, Fear, and Shame to Be Your Best and Bravest Self

Author: Harriet Lerner

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 0061983713

Category: Self-Help

Page: 256

View: 8772

Unhappiness, says bestselling author Harriet Lerner, is fueled by three key emotions: anxiety, fear, and shame. They are the uninvited guests in our lives. When tragedy or hardship hits, they may become our constant companions. Anxiety can wash over us like a tidal wave or operate as a silent thrum under the surface of our daily lives. With stories that are sometimes hilarious and sometimes heartbreaking, Lerner takes us from "fear lite" to the most difficult lessons the universe sends us. We learn: how a man was "cured in a day" of the fear of rejection -- and what we can learn from his story how the author overcame her dread of public speaking when her worst fears were realized how to deal with the fear of not being good enough, and with the shame of feeling essentially flawed and inadequate how to stay calm and clear in an anxious, crazy workplace how to manage fear and despair when life sends a crash course in illness, vulnerability, and loss how "positive thinking" helps -- and harms how to be our best and bravest selves, even when we are terrified and have internalized the shaming messages of others No one signs up for anxiety, fear, and shame, but we can’t avoid them either. As we learn to respond to these three key emotions in new ways, we can live more fully in the present and move into the future with courage, clarity, humor, and hope. Fear and Other Uninvited Guests shows us how.

The Danger of Anger

Removing Anger at the Root

Author: Teryl Todd

Publisher: Ministry Solutions

ISBN: 9780982528952

Category: Religion

Page: 126

View: 8442

By using examples from his personal life, Todd helps readers discover why anger can dominate their lives and how God has the answer to be free.

The Mother Dance

How Children Change Your Life

Author: Harriet Lerner

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 0061847097

Category: Psychology

Page: 336

View: 7646

From the celebrated author of The Dance of Anger comes an extraordinary book about mothering and how it transforms us -- and all our relationships -- inside and out. Written from her dual perspective as a psychologist and a mother, Lerner brings us deeply personal tales that run the gamut from the hilarious to the heart-wrenching. From birth or adoption to the empty nest, The Mother Dance teaches the basic lessons of motherhood: that we are not in control of what happens to our children, that most of what we worry about doesn't happen, and that our children will love us with all our imperfections if we can do the same for them. Here is a gloriously witty and moving book about what it means to dance the mother dance.

Who's Pulling Your Strings?: How to Break the Cycle of Manipulation and Regain Control of Your Life

How to Break the Cycle of Manipulation and Regain Control of Your Life

Author: Harriet Braiker

Publisher: McGraw Hill Professional

ISBN: 9780071435680

Category: Self-Help

Page: 256

View: 9024

A powerful program to stop manipulators in their tracks In Who's Pulling Your Strings?, Dr. Harriet B. Braiker, New York Times bestselling author of The Disease to Please, explains how depression, low self-esteem, anger, and feelings of helplessness can be caused by relationships with manipulative people. She exposes the most common methods of manipulators, and with the help of selfassessment quizzes, action plans, and how-to exercises, she helps you recognize and end the manipulative cycle for good.

The Anger Management Workbook

Use the STOP Method to Replace Destructive Responses with Constructive Behavior

Author: W. Robert Nay

Publisher: Guilford Publications

ISBN: 1462509770

Category: Psychology

Page: 286

View: 8879

Out-of-control anger can destroy relationships, reputations, careers--even your health. But Dr. Robert Nay knows from extensive clinical experience that nearly anyone can learn to manage anger constructively--with enough practice. That's where this skillfully crafted workbook comes in. Using step-by-step learning exercises based on state-of-the-art knowledge about how the brain works, you can break old habits and replace them with more productive new ones. Dr. Nay's breakthrough STOP Method (Stop, Think, Objectify, and Plan) helps you: *Understand how anger flares up in your brain and body--and how you can lower the heat. *Identify the fleeting yet powerful thoughts that fuel destructive anger. *Replace aggression with appropriate assertiveness. *Effectively communicate your thoughts, feelings, and needs. *Defuse conflicts and find "win-win" solutions. *See how the strategies are applied in a wealth of realistic scenarios. While working through the book's simple checklists and fill-in-the-blank forms (you can download and print additional copies as needed), you'll be building real skills to apply in everyday life. When anger gets in the way of your personal goals, this book provides a blueprint for change. See also Dr. Nay's "Taking Charge of Anger, Second Edition," which helps you understand and manage destructive anger in all its forms, and "Overcoming Anger in Your Relationship: How to Break the Cycle of Arguments, Put-Downs, and Stony Silences."

Coming of Age in Samoa

A Psychological Study of Primitive Youth for Western Civilisation

Author: Margaret Mead

Publisher: HarperCollins

ISBN: 0062566091

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 256

View: 3084

Rarely do science and literature come together in the same book. When they do -- as in Charles Darwin's On the Origin of Species, for example -- they become classics, quoted and studied by scholars and the general public alike. Margaret Mead accomplished this remarkable feat not once but several times, beginning with Coming of Age in Samoa. It details her historic journey to American Samoa, taken where she was just twenty-three, where she did her first fieldwork. Here, for the first time, she presented to the public the idea that the individual experience of developmental stages could be shaped by cultural demands and expectations. Adolescence, she wrote, might be more or less stormy, and sexual development more or less problematic in different cultures. The "civilized" world, she taught us had much to learn from the "primitive." Now this groundbreaking, beautifully written work as been reissued for the centennial of her birth, featuring introductions by Mary Pipher and by Mead's daughter, Mary Catherine Bateson.

Created for Connection

The "Hold Me Tight" Guide for Christian Couples

Author: Sue Johnson,Kenneth Sanderfer

Publisher: Hachette UK

ISBN: 0316307408

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 336

View: 1481

"Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love."--1 John 4:8 Are you looking to enrich a healthy relationship, revitalize a tired one, or rescue one gone awry? Do you yearn to grow closer to God, and to further incorporate Him and His teachings into your marriage? We all want a lifetime of love, support, and faith. But sometimes we need a little help. Enter Dr. Sue Johnson, developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and "the best couple therapist in the world," according to bestselling relationship expert Dr. John Gottman. In CREATED FOR CONNECTION, Dr. Johnson and Kenneth Sanderfer, a leading EFT practitioner in the Christian community, share Johnson's groundbreaking and remarkably successful program for creating stronger, more secure relationships not only between partners, but between us and God. The message of CREATED FOR CONNECTION is simple: Forget about learning how to argue better, analyzing your early childhood, or making grand romantic gestures. Instead, get to the emotional underpinnings of your relationship by recognizing that you are attached to and dependent on your partner in much the same way that a child is on a parent, and we are on the Heavenly Father, for nurturing, soothing, and protection. The way to enhance or save our relationships with each other and with God is to be open, attuned, responsive, and to reestablish safe emotional connection. Filled with Bible verses, inspiring real-life stories, and guidance, CREATED FOR CONNECTION will ensure a lifetime of love.

The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands

Author: Dr. Laura Schlessinger

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 9780061796746

Category: Self-Help

Page: 208

View: 7022

In her most provocative book yet, Dr. Laura urgently reminds women that to take proper care of their husbands is to ensure themselves the happiness and satisfaction they yearn for in marriage. Women want to be in love, get married, and live happily ever after. Yet disrespect for men and disregard for the value, feelings, and needs of husbands has fast become the standard for male-female relations in America. Those two attitudes clash in unfortunate ways to create struggle and strife in what could be a beautiful relationship. Countless women call Dr. Laura, unhappy in their marriages and seemingly at a loss to understand the incredible power they have over their men to create the kind of home life they yearn for. Now, in The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, Dr. Laura shows you—with real-life examples and real-life solutions—how to wield that power to attain all the sexual pleasure, intimacy, love, joy, and peace you want in your life. Dr. Laura's simple principles have changed the lives of millions. Now they can change yours.

Three Secrets

An utterly gripping psychological suspense thriller

Author: Clare Boyd

Publisher: Bookouture

ISBN: 178681417X

Category: Fiction

Page: N.A

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The Secret Side of Anger

The Quickest & Easiest Guide (Ever!) to Managing Anger

Author: Janet Pfeiffer

Publisher: Tate Publishing

ISBN: 1606965301

Category: Self-Help

Page: 191

View: 8217

Most people don't realize how angry they are. And yet anger destroys millions of lives every day because people aren't properly equipped to handle it. Author Janet Pfeiffer reveals that "The Secret Side of Anger" is that anger itself isn't the real issue. It is triggered by underlying emotions and problems that need to be addressed first. Cleverly employing a sarcastic, lighthearted approach, she provides simple yet effective techniques that anyone can use to confront and release angry feelings that might be on the verge of destroying lives. Janet learned the hard way. She wrote "The Secret Side of Anger" so you won't have to.

Women who Worry Too Much

How to Stop Worry & Anxiety from Ruining Relationships, Work & Fun

Author: Holly Hazlett-Stevens

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications

ISBN: 1572244127

Category: Self-Help

Page: 168

View: 9372

An expert in the study of worry and anxiety provides women with simple, engaging, proven effective CBT and mindfulness-based exercises and strategies to combat excessive worry, freeing them up to lead a more productive, stress-free life.

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