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What Dying People Want

Lessons for Living from People Who Are Dying

Author: Dr. David Kuhl

Publisher: Anchor Canada

ISBN: 0307374971

Category: Self-Help

Page: 352

View: 1075

An internationally renowned palliative care physician offers guidance on living with a terminal illness. Based on research funded by the Soros Foundation and extensive interviews with dying people. A profound and practical book about living with a terminal illness over a long period of time. It offers guidance, solace, and helpful strategies for people who are terminally ill, their families and caregivers. Facing death results in more fear and anxiety than any other human experience. Western medicine has accomplished a great deal in addressing physical pain and controlling symptoms for people with a terminal illness, but much slower progress has been made in understanding and alleviating psychological and spiritual distress. In What Dying People Want, Dr. David Kuhl begins to bridge that gap. He does so by addressing end-of-life realities — physical, psychological and spiritual — through his own experiences as a doctor and through the words and experiences of people who know that they are dying. He presents ways of addressing the pain, of finding new life in the process of dying and of understanding the inner reality of living with a terminal illness. He acknowledges the despair and recognizes the desire for hope and meaning. Dr. Kuhl also makes the provocative case that insensitive communication by doctors creates more suffering for patients than either the illness or the knowledge of impending death, and offers both the dying and their caregivers guidance on preventing painful interactions. He provides ways of speaking about difficult topics with physicians, family members, friends and those who have a terminal illness. “This book started with a research question: What is the daily experience of living with a terminal illness? How does that experience affect your sense of self, your relationship with others, and your understanding of the spiritual? Many of those I interviewed asked me to share what they had given me with others who would follow — those with a terminal illness as well as their friends and family members who would care for them and about them. They asked specifically that I write a book for a general audience, and not only for my colleagues in the medical profession. This is the book that grew out of that research.” — Dr. David Kuhl From the Hardcover edition.

What Dying People Want

Practical Wisdom For The End Of Life

Author: David Kuhl

Publisher: PublicAffairs

ISBN: 0786725834

Category: Social Science

Page: 352

View: 7387

Facing death results in more fear and anxiety than any other human experience. Though much has been done to address the physical pain suffered by those with a terminal illness, Western medicine has been slow to understand and alleviate the psychological and spiritual distress that comes with the knowledge of death. In What Dying People Want, Dr. David Kuhl begins to bridge that gap by addressing end-of-life realities--practical and emotional--through his own experiences as a doctor and through the words and experiences of people who knew that they were dying. Dr. Kuhl presents ways of finding new life in the process of dying, understanding the inner reality of living with a terminal illness, and addressing the fear of pain, as well as pain itself. He also offers concrete guidance on how to enhance doctor/patient relationships and hold family meetings, and provides an introduction to the process of life review. It is possible to find meaning and peace in the face of death. What Dying People Want "helps us learn to view the knowledge of death as a gift, not a curse." (New Times)

What Dying People Want

Lessons for Living from People Who Are Dying

Author: David Kuhl

Publisher: Anchor Canada

ISBN: 0385658842

Category: Death

Page: 317

View: 1062

An internationally renowned palliative care physician offers guidance on living with a terminal illness. Based on research funded by the Soros Foundation and extensive interviews with dying people. A profound and practical book about living with a terminal illness over a long period of time. It offers guidance, solace, and helpful strategies for people who are terminally ill, their families and caregivers. Facing death results in more fear and anxiety than any other human experience. Western medicine has accomplished a great deal in addressing physical pain and controlling symptoms for people with a terminal illness, but much slower progress has been made in understanding and alleviating psychological and spiritual distress. In What Dying People Want, Dr. David Kuhl begins to bridge that gap. He does so by addressing end-of-life realities — physical, psychological and spiritual — through his own experiences as a doctor and through the words and experiences of people who know that they are dying. He presents ways of addressing the pain, of finding new life in the process of dying and of understanding the inner reality of living with a terminal illness. He acknowledges the despair and recognizes the desire for hope and meaning. Dr. Kuhl also makes the provocative case that insensitive communication by doctors creates more suffering for patients than either the illness or the knowledge of impending death, and offers both the dying and their caregivers guidance on preventing painful interactions. He provides ways of speaking about difficult topics with physicians, family members, friends and those who have a terminal illness. “This book started with a research question: What is the daily experience of living with a terminal illness? How does that experience affect your sense of self, your relationship with others, and your understanding of the spiritual? Many of those I interviewed asked me to share what they had given me with others who would follow — those with a terminal illness as well as their friends and family members who would care for them and about them. They asked specifically that I write a book for a general audience, and not only for my colleagues in the medical profession. This is the book that grew out of that research.” — Dr. David Kuhl From the Hardcover edition.

Sacred Passage

How to Provide Fearless, Compassionate Care for the Dying

Author: Margaret Coberly, Ph.D, RN

Publisher: Shambhala Publications

ISBN: 0834828707

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 176

View: 2919

Working as an emergency room nurse, Margaret Coberly came in contact with death on a daily basis. However, it wasn't until her own brother was diagnosed with terminal cancer that she realized she understood very little about the emotional and spiritual aspects of caring for the terminally ill. To fill this gap she turned to the unique wisdom on death and dying found in Tibetan Buddhism. In this book Coberly offers sound, practical advice on meeting the essential needs of the dying, integrating stories from her long career in nursing with useful insights from the Tibetan Buddhist teachings. In the West, death is viewed as a tragic and horrible event. Coberly shows us how this view generates fear and denial, which harm the dying by adding unnecessary loneliness, confusion, and mental anguish to the dying process. Tibetan Buddhism focuses on the nature of death and how to face it with honesty, openness, and courage. In this view, death is not a failure, but a natural part of life that, if properly understood and appreciated, can offer the dying and their loved ones an opportunity to gain valuable insight and wisdom. Coberly argues that the Tibetan Buddhist outlook can be a useful antidote to the culture of fear and denial that surrounds death in the West and can help caregivers become more fully present, fearless, honest, and compassionate. Sacred Passage highlights two very practical teachings on death and dying from the Tibetan Buddhist tradition and presents them in clear, nontechnical language. Readers learn about the "eight stages of dissolution leading to death," a detailed roadmap of the dying process that describes the sequence of physical, psychological, and spiritual changes that occur as we die. Coberly also presents the "death meditation," a contemplative exercise for developing a new relationship to death—and life. The book also includes a lengthy, annotated list of recommended readings for added guidance and inspiration. Topics include: • How the terminally ill can experience emotional and spiritual healing even when they can't be cured • Why Western medicine's relentless focus on curing disease has led to inadequate care for the dying • What to expect during the dying process • How our fear and denial of death harm the dying • Techniques to help caregivers promote a peaceful environment for the dying and their loved ones • How to meet the changing physical and emotional needs of the dying • Helpful advice on what to say and how to behave around the terminally ill

Being with Dying

Cultivating Compassion and Fearlessness in the Presence of Death

Author: Joan Halifax

Publisher: Shambhala Publications

ISBN: 1570624690

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 204

View: 9990

Zen teacher Joan Halifax has been helping both the dying and their caregivers to face death with courage and compassion for three decades. Here, Joan offers the fruits of her work, providing comfort, inspiration, and practical skills for all those who are

Lessons from the Dying

Author: Rodney Smith

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 0861718917

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 224

View: 4561

Are a person's perceptions and values altered when facing the end of life? Do the dying see the world in a way that could help the rest of us learn how to live? This book takes us into the lessons of the dying. Through the words and circumstances of the terminally ill, we become immersed in their wisdom and in our own mortality. The dying speak to us in direct and personal ways, pointing toward a wise and sane way to live. In everyday language we can all understand, Rodney Smith extends the conversation about death to people of all ages and states of health. Through exercises and guided meditative reflections at the end of each chapter, the lessons of the dying become a blueprint for our own growth.

Final Gifts

Understanding the Special Awareness, Needs, and Co

Author: Maggie Callanan,Patricia Kelley

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 1451677294

Category: Self-Help

Page: 224

View: 1130

In this moving and compassionate classic—now updated with new material from the authors—hospice nurses Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley share their intimate experiences with patients at the end of life, drawn from more than twenty years’ experience tending the terminally ill. Through their stories we come to appreciate the near-miraculous ways in which the dying communicate their needs, reveal their feelings, and even choreograph their own final moments; we also discover the gifts—of wisdom, faith, and love—that the dying leave for the living to share. Filled with practical advice on responding to the requests of the dying and helping them prepare emotionally and spiritually for death, Final Gifts shows how we can help the dying person live fully to the very end.

Conversations on Dying

A Palliative-Care Pioneer Faces His Own Death

Author: Phil Dwyer

Publisher: Dundurn

ISBN: 1459731956

Category: Health & Fitness

Page: 216

View: 4605

The story of the end-of-life experience of a palliative care physician who helped thousands of patients to die well. We all die. Most of us spend the majority of our lives ignoring this uncomfortable truth, but Dr. Larry Librach dedicated his life and his career to helping his patients navigate their final journey. Then, in April 2013, Larry was diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer. Unlike the majority of us, Larry knew the death he wanted. He wanted to die at home, surrounded by his family: his wife of forty years, his children, and his grandchildren. He did. He was peaceful and calm at the end. Larry proved that the “good death” isn’t a myth. It can be done, and he showed us how. Ever the teacher, Larry made his last journey a teachable moment on how to die the best death possible, even with a pernicious disease. As hard as it is to guide patients toward dying well, it is far harder to live those precepts day by day as the clock ticks down to one’s own death, but Larry, together with author Phil Dwyer, chronicled his final journey with courage and humour.

Preparing to Die

Practical Advice and Spiritual Wisdom from the Tibetan Buddhist Tradition

Author: Andrew Holecek

Publisher: Shambhala Publications

ISBN: 0834828979

Category: Self-Help

Page: 480

View: 2625

We all face death, but how many of us are actually ready for it? Whether our own death or that of a loved one comes first, how prepared are we, spiritually or practically? In Preparing to Die, Andrew Holecek presents a wide array of resources to help the reader address this unfinished business. Part One shows how to prepare one’s mind and how to help others, before, during, and after death. The author explains how spiritual preparation for death can completely transform our relationship to the end of life, dissolving our fear and helping us to feel open and receptive to letting go in the dying process. Daily meditation practices, the stages of dying and how to work with them, and after-death experiences are all detailed in ways that will be particularly helpful for those with an interest in Tibetan Buddhism and in Tibetan approaches to conscious dying. Part Two addresses the practical issues that surround death. Experts in grief, hospice, the funeral business, and the medical and legal issues of death contribute chapters to prepare the reader for every practical concern, including advance directives, green funerals, the signs of death, warnings about the funeral industry, the stages of grief, and practical care for the dying. Part Three contains heart-advice from twenty of the best-known Tibetan Buddhist masters now teaching in the West. These brief interviews provide words of solace and wisdom to guide the dying and their caregivers during this challenging time. Preparing to Die is for anyone interested in learning how to prepare for death from a Buddhist perspective, both spiritually and practically. It is also for those who want to learn how to help someone else who is dying, both during the time of illness and death as well as after death.

Living at the End of Life

A Hospice Nurse Addresses the Most Common Questions

Author: Karen Whitley Bell

Publisher: Sterling Publishing (NY)

ISBN: 9781454928393

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 280

View: 9903

This warm and informative resource on hospice and other end-of-life care options gets an update, with a new preface and revised guidance on long-term care and support, recommendations on pain medications, and advice for those living extended lives with treatable, but not curable, diseases. Written by a hospice nurse, this insightful book reassures us that this difficult time also offers an opportunity to explore a richer meaning in life.

May I Walk You Home?

Sharing Christ's Love With the Dying

Author: Melody Rossi

Publisher: Bethany House

ISBN: 076420355X

Category: Religion

Page: 176

View: 6573

A guide for Christians who desire to share Christ with the dying in a loving, natural way; answers questions about end-of-life issues.

Someone I Know Is Dying

Practical Advice from an End-Of-Life Companion

Author: Priscilla Ronan

Publisher: N.A

ISBN: 9780990923800

Category:

Page: 160

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We will all face death at some point in our lives. Our own, of course, but more than likely someone we love will precede us. And the living--the end-of-life companions--find themselves without a guide. Priscilla has written a simple, easy-to-read book that addresses the concerns of a person watching another nearing the end of life. Most of us are unprepared for the end-of-life companion role. This book attempts to provide practical solutions. According to Priscilla, "this time will be difficult and challenging, but it can also be a time of learning about ourselves and how we prepare for facing death as part of life."A book in three parts:PART ONE is about choosing the role you take when interacting with someone who is dying. PART TWO helps you determine what to do and say in various situations surrounding the dying process.PART THREE is about learning how to care for yourself during an often very difficult and demanding time.Through a series of stories based on her own experiences, the author helps you to navigate through the ups and downs associated with death and grief. Each chapter provides suggestions about tools, words, and actions appropriate for many types of difficult situations.

Final Journeys

A Practical Guide for Bringing Care and Comfort at the End of Life

Author: Maggie Callanan

Publisher: Bantam

ISBN: 055390423X

Category: Self-Help

Page: 352

View: 8685

For more than two decades, hospice nurse Maggie Callanan has tended to the terminally ill and been a cornerstone of support for their loved ones. Now the coauthor of the classic bestseller Final Gifts passes along the lessons she has learned from the experts—her patients. Here is the guide we all need to understanding the special needs of the dying and those who care for them. In her work with thousands of families, Maggie Callanan has witnessed the tears, the love—and the confusion and conflict—this final passage can evoke. Now, with honesty, compassion, and even humor, she empowers patients and their families to write the last chapter of their lives with less fear, less pain, and more control—so that all involved can focus their energies on creating the best possible ending. From supporting a husband or wife faced with the loss of a spouse, to helping a dying mother prepare her children to carry on without her, Callanan’s poignant stories illustrate new ways to meet the physical, emotional, and spiritual challenges of this difficult and precious time. She brings welcome clarity to medical and ethical concerns, explaining what to expect at every stage. Each brief chapter also conveys a home truth about making crucial treatment decisions, supporting the patient’s dignity and individuality, and lightening the burden on caregivers. Final Journeys is designed to be your companion, resource, and advocate. From diagnosis through the final hours, it will help you keep the lines of communication open, get the help you need, and create the peaceful end we all hope for. From the Hardcover edition.

Sacred Dying

Creating Rituals for Embracing the End of Life

Author: Megory Anderson

Publisher: Marlowe & Company

ISBN: 9781569244340

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 384

View: 3999

The author instructs readers in the art of dying, providing useful advice on how to create rituals around death that encourage sacredness and spirituality, while exploring difficult questions surrounding the act of dying and attendant care and offering thoughtful rituals and prayers to support the needs of the dying while comforting the living. Reprint.

The Four Things That Matter Most - 10th Anniversary Edition

A Book About Living

Author: Ira Byock

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 1476748535

Category: Body, Mind & Spirit

Page: 272

View: 6721

Updated with stories from people who have been inspired by the original text, a guide to connecting with what matters most identifies four phrases for honoring relationships, letting go of unhealthy emotions, and living life fully.

Last Rights

Rescuing the End of Life from the Medical System

Author: Stephen P. Kiernan

Publisher: Macmillan

ISBN: 9780312342241

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 301

View: 9864

"Up to the 1970s, most Americans died swiftly: of heart attacks, strokes, cancer, or in accidents. But in the past three decades, medical advances have extended our lives and changed the way we die. Journalist Kiernan reveals the disconnect between how pa

Advice for Future Corpses (and Those Who Love Them)

A Practical Perspective on Death and Dying

Author: Sallie Tisdale

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 1501182196

Category: Self-Help

Page: 256

View: 2306

“In its loving, fierce specificity, this book on how to die is also a blessedly saccharine-free guide for how to live.” —The New York Times We Are All Future Corpses Former NEA fellow and Pushcart Prize-winning writer Sallie Tisdale offers a lyrical, thought-provoking, yet practical perspective on death and dying in Advice for Future Corpses (and Those Who Love Them). Informed by her many years working as a nurse, with more than a decade in palliative care, Tisdale provides a frank, direct, and compassionate meditation on the inevitable. From the sublime (the faint sound of Mozart as you take your last breath) to the ridiculous (lessons on how to close the sagging jaw of a corpse), Tisdale leads the reader through the peaks and troughs of death with a calm, wise, and humorous hand. Advice for Future Corpses is more than a how-to manual or a spiritual bible: it is a graceful compilation of honest and intimate anecdotes based on the deaths Tisdale has witnessed in her work and life, as well as stories from cultures, traditions, and literature around the world. Tisdale explores all the heartbreaking, beautiful, terrifying, confusing, absurd, and even joyful experiences that accompany the work of dying, including: A Good Death: What does it mean to die “a good death”? Can there be more than one kind of good death? What can I do to make my death, or the deaths of my loved ones, good? Communication: What to say and not to say, what to ask, and when, from the dying, loved ones, doctors, and more. Last Months, Weeks, Days, and Hours: What you might expect, physically and emotionally, including the limitations, freedoms, pain, and joy of this unique time. Bodies: What happens to a body after death? What options are available to me after my death, and how do I choose—and make sure my wishes are followed? Grief: “Grief is the story that must be told over and over...Grief is the breath after the last one.” Beautifully written and compulsively readable, Advice for Future Corpses offers the resources and reassurance that we all need for planning the ends of our lives, and is essential reading for future corpses everywhere.

Fearless Death

Buddhist Wisdom on the Art of Dying

Author: Lama Ole Nydahl

Publisher: N.A

ISBN: 9780975295410

Category: Buddhism

Page: 288

View: 1087

Life's Last Gift

Giving and Receiving Peace When a Loved One Is Dying

Author: Charles Garfield

Publisher: Central Recovery Press

ISBN: 1942094515

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 200

View: 5716

Psychologist and Shanti Project founder, Charles Garfield offers compassionate and expert guidance for friends and families who want to ease their loved ones’ final days. By focusing on the reciprocal and healing relationship between the living and the dying, Life’s Last Gift provides practical tools about connecting, finding peace, and being of service to those at the end of life.

Die Wise

A Manifesto for Sanity and Soul

Author: Stephen Jenkinson

Publisher: North Atlantic Books

ISBN: 1583949739

Category: BODY, MIND & SPIRIT

Page: 396

View: 952

"A potentially life-changing book for anyone wanting to experience grief and death in a more meaningful way. Grounded in the author's experiences with hundreds of dying people and their families, the book advocates a bold engagement with a part of the human experience that is often more endured than lived"--

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